[33girl]

There's a difference between pseudo-bigs for event purposes and going to the official family tree and changing where your name was/completely ignoring your real big's ever having existed. The first is fine and fun. The second is just straight up rude.

If she's doing the first, don't begrudge it. If she's doing the second, I would remind her that you transferred - you did not self-terminate or get kicked out of the sorority. If your big's a senior and she graduates, you don't get a new one. Is anyone else in your family line still in the chapter?

Your little, if she's truly as close to you as she says, needs to say "hey, I'm flattered, but SunDevilGreek is still my big, even though she's not here." She's not an inanimate object, she can't be "taken" if she doesn't consent to it.