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Originally Posted by sherrybaby
I totally agree that the OP should give this house a chance, I just think that maybe some of these posts are getting a bit condescending. Let's respect her feelings and be conscious of the fact that maybe she really won't fit at this chapter. I honestly didn't get the impression that she felt DEF was beneath her, just that she didn't feel comfortable at any of the parties. So hopefully the OP will look at DEF with new eyes and come to appreciate them, but let's not judge her if it doesn't work out.
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She is at a school where all 3 chapters are pretty small. Only 30 women went through rush so she didn't fall through the cracks and get cut at a chapter that she would have been perfect for. We're just telling her that if she doesn't fit here, it's very very unlikely that she can rerush and be part of Greek life. It's hard to tell for sure if you "fit" after less than a week - as KSUViolet said, there seems to be this fantasy perpetuated that EVERYONE is 100% happy at their sorority and BFFs with everyone immediately. While it does happen that way for a few people, for the most part it takes a while to really find your place, no matter how small the group is.
She's tied to this group for a year, so she might as well spend some more time trying it out, and if she still hates it a month & 1/2 down the road, she doesn't have to initiate.