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While I totally agree that the OP should give DEF a chance, since she can't rush again for another year anyway, I think we might be being a bit harsh on her. While it sounds like DEF might be what would be considered "lower tier" (although I cringe at typing that phrase) at some schools, it didn't sound to me like that was the reason she didn't want to be a part of them. Although maybe I'm just naive, I do tend to see the best in people...
my point is, a lot of these posts sound like they are certain that the OP must belong in this sorority simply because they extended her a bid. I know even in my limited experience, this isn't always the case. Struggling chapters (in terms of numbers) sometimes are not that discerning and might extend bids to any girl who doesn't seem totally 100% wrong. I'm sure this has worked out in many cases, but let's at least recognize that it happens. Bottom line, none of us were at these parties, none of us know what she felt. Let's not assume that because she is a younger than a lot of the people on this board that she doesn't know what she feels. Yes, tons of girls end up loving sororities they were unsure about, I know plenty people like that, but the key word is unsure. Usually the ones who end up loving a house had mixed feelings, not a uniform feeling of not feeling comfortable at all.
I totally agree that the OP should give this house a chance, I just think that maybe some of these posts are getting a bit condescending. Let's respect her feelings and be conscious of the fact that maybe she really won't fit at this chapter. I honestly didn't get the impression that she felt DEF was beneath her, just that she didn't feel comfortable at any of the parties. So hopefully the OP will look at DEF with new eyes and come to appreciate them, but let's not judge her if it doesn't work out.
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