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Originally Posted by agzg
Well, "rational" depends on your starting point.
Besides, this is obviously not the view of all homophobes. I highly doubt that Fred Phelps fits in this model.
I'm talking about the more subtle - the "I don't want to give her a bid because I'm afraid she'll hit on me" rather than the "I don't want to be in the same restaurant because I'm afraid she'll hit on me." In a chapter, the assumption (although we know this is not true) is that you're all friends, you all have a relationship with one another.
If a person doesn't think a straight man and woman can have a relationship with one another that is strictly platonic, they might also think that they can't be friends with a member of the same sex who is gay and have that be strictly platonic, either.
It's not "I don't want to work with you in a group project for 20 minutes during class because you're gay and you'll hit on me."
People who follow the When Harry Met Sally mentality may still socialize and persue friendships with the opposite sex, it's just that they don't expect even the possibility that it will remain neutral. If that's your starting point, I think it's completely rational that someone would think the same of a lesbian potential new member.
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So because they belong to the same sorority as you, they'll hit on you? Ok...then don't make them your new best friend. This is what I'm talking about.