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I'm going to do a bit of a post script, because there seems to be a huge influx of NM's struggling with their choices post-bid day.
The first semester, I was all about partying hard, and so I naturally gravitated toward the people in the house who did such things. As a result, most of my pledge class did not like me, nor did my big sis. I moved into the house my second semester, and most of my friends were sophomores or juniors. In fact, I didn't even really get along with the other girls from my pledge class who also moved into the house (there were eight of us, in total).
I did really love my chapter, though, and had a ton of fun...I was that girl who never missed a party with a fraternity, that's for sure. My first rush as an active, my partner and I were in the "never gets a break" category because we had such good returns. In fact, I think this was true of almost all of the women who went on to be officers.
Sophomore year, I think I took on the job of external philanthropy chair, probably in an attempt to prove I was more mature. I really wanted to run for Panhellenic rep (most officers served from their second semester of sophomore year until their first semester of junior year), but when it became obvious that none of the current officers were running for president, I decided I would give it a shot. There were some people who thought I was too much of a partier and were concerned about how I would "represent the chapter" and all that, but they elected me anyway. I'm pretty sure that knowing the names of all the NM's worked in my favor :-).
That seriously burned me out, and I moved out of the chapter house as soon as I was done being on exec, but I was still around a lot as a senior, and tried to get to know all the new girls. It does get hard, though, especially in large chapters.
Another weird thing, IMO, is the girls I became friends with post-graduation. A lot of them were not necessarily the ones I was friends with as an undergrad. I have become very close to women I only sorta knew as an undergrad, and gotten to know women who graduated before I was even a freshman.
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