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Like others have said, it depends on the chapter and the campus. DO NOT miss class for recruitment. At some schools, that will disqualify you from receiving a bid.

Think about it this way...it would be totally unfair to the PNM for a chapter to cut her just for not going to the party for a completely legitimate reason...but it would also be unfair to the rest of the PNMs if a PNM who missed a party was automatically invited back. If they really like you, and more importantly, if you were memorable enough to have women pulling for you, they'll invite you back, but you've had one fewer opportunity to make an impression when you miss a party.