butt butt butt.
I'm on the side of the mother asking the question anonymously because she's wondering what is SOP instead of asking/telling the daughter too much.
The answer here could just as easily have been
your daughter needs to be fighting for her rights! or something else completely contrary to the responses given. How's she supposed to know? In the land of compromise, asking strangers a simple enough question is somewhere in between being no support to your daughter whatsoever and calling the chapter president in a rage. If she has friends who are sorority alumnae, they would also have been an option.