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Originally Posted by ree-Xi
I actually have a big heart and am very sensitive. However, I am direct and ask questions. People mistake directness as rude, and get defensive when questions are asked.
I ask direct questions so as to remove the emotional element from the situation and get to the business of the matter so that I can:
A. offer a perspective that the person may not see, or
B. offer suggestions as to how to resolve the situation (whether that be seeking help elsewhere, or moving on).
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I knew there was something about you, ree-Xi. That's me too, and I get into "trouble" because I'm so direct. I've had to really work with the chapter that I advise to train them and reassure them that I am NOT mad. I am analytical and a thinker, not a "feeler" (despite being sensitive) and I'm asking questions not because they are in trouble or did anything wrong. My job is to solve problems quickly, not talk them to death.
Sometimes confidence (which I have a good amount of, always have, since I was a preschooler, I'm told) gets mistaken for something else. I'm still learning the fine arts of diplomacy and tact and how to "finesse" things. I'm a work in progress, what can I say?