[GreekGuide]

Rush can be extremely stressful for both the chapter and the PNM. A lot of very tough decisions have to be made, and sometimes, yes, the right girl gets let go. When I was an undergrad, we had over 1,000 women go through rush and quota was in the neighborhood of 50 and capped at around 55. For 15 chapters, that meant that about 250 women wouldn't get bids or drop out of rush.

I agree with the previous posts about meeting officers. I was in love with a chapter where I got introduced to the President, the Leadership consultant who was in town and three or four sisters. I got cut the 2nd day. I was really shocked.

At the time, I don't think it was considered a rush infraction, but from about the 2nd day until Pref night, my chapter kept telling me that I would really fit in at AGD. Things just felt right there. It was ironic that each day that chapter was the last party of the day. So, it was a bit more laid back and comforting.

Back then and today, it still is considered an infraction to say anything along the lines of "See you tomorrow, See ya, Hope to see you tomorrow, etc."

I think every comment the women make you need to take with a grain of salt. In large chapters, you are only getting the breadth, not the depth of the sisters' personalities. Sometimes for whatever reason, you just didn't get to meet enough or the right people and you get cut. It happens. Not because of anything malicious, catty, fake or bitchy.....just because. And yes, sometimes the chapter realizes later that the wrong girl squeaked through. It's crappy, but mistakes happen. The system isn't perfect.

It is the chapter's loss, but in most cases there is not one chapter but many where you will fit in.