[Lightning Bug!]

Er, when I transferred out of my snooty day school to a Catholic school in my hometown, the day school headmaster told my parents that my life would be ruined because, having not gone to the "right" high school, I would not get into the "right" sorority, which would eventually lead to "catastrophic" events like failure to get elected to leadership positions in the Junior League.

I went to the Catholic school, got into a good college, loved my sorority, went on to get a PhD, and never had time to join the Junior League. My life was not ruined. BUT there are still people who think that way and who still judge that my life was, in part, a failure because I did not follow "the script."