[33girl]

I would say don't bring up drinking AT ALL, because it puts the sisters in a very uncomfy situation. All the national sororities' alcohol policies can be found on their national websites.

As far as social, maybe ask "what are some fun mixer themes you had" or something along those lines. If you don't ask about that at all, they might think you don't enjoy those kinds of activities. It's natural and normal to want to have fun when you join a sorority! It's not all grades, philanthropy and meetings.

As far as the house I know I am picking a nit, but ask "who lives in the chapter house?" By asking "do I have to live in" it might convey that you would think of that as a burden. When you ask it that way, more than likely the sister will volunteer when/if you have to live in.

If you have any doubts as to whether a question would be appropriate, ask your rho chi or if you don't feel comfy asking her, the Greek advisor.

Oh and anyone who is designing a rush booklet or a Panhel website - please make it easy on everyone involved and put each group's costs (or failing that, an average cost) and whether payment plans are available in it. Everyone hates talking about $$, and it's so much better if it's laid out and you don't have to.