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1. Do a majority of the sisters like or can at least tolerate a majority of the fraternity members?
2. Does anyone have any major drama associated with members of that fraternity? "I just don't like him" wouldn't be enough but if a sister had an incident at the house (not saying this is your fraternity, but if there were allegations or suspicions of sexual assault, that would be one), or if the president of your fraternity was dating someone in your sorority and he cheated on her with a fraternity brother, that might do it.
3. Do sisters feel comfortable in the house, in general?
4. Do sisters even know any members of the fraternity in general? Getting to know them first before partying with them goes a long way in terms of safety, fun.
5. Does the sorority's social schedule allow for another mixer/formal/party to be added (some chapters do their social calendars waaaaaaaaay in advance)?
6. What is the proposed event? Theme? How would it affect them financially?
I will say that if you're looking to mix with new sororities that you haven't mixed with before, a good way to go about it is to get to know at least half of that sorority's chapter so that you have an advocate while these decisions are being made. You can get to know them at all-greek events, in class, in the cafeteria, wherever. From what I've heard, when a new fraternity came onto my campus after I graduated, it took about a semester or one school year before most of the sororities had held some type of formal or informal event with them.
If you're having problems and you're NOT new, you should start to think about your reputation on campus. If it's something particularly damaging (see: allegations of sexual assault, hardcore hazing, etc), it's probably something you should address. If it's something like "oh they're nerds" then getting to know sorority members on a one-on-one basis is probably the best way to go about it. The "nerd" fraternity on my campus was actually pretty popular to mix with because they actively tried to build relationships with sorority members, and were always very kind and courteous to them (and their parties were fun). Had they been more anti-social, they probably would have had more problems.
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