[XiLovin]

Okay, my situation is not exactly the same but I can relate. My roommate and I are very best friends. She and I had been tossing the idea of joining a sorority back and forth for some time but eventually settled on the idea that we were just to old. (wrong by the way :-) ) Either way, we really felt like we were missing out on a lot and were very disappointed that we hadn't rushed earlier in our college careers.

Well, fall semester starts and there is a girl in my very first class and she was very informative about rush and how it was okay that I am older. She was also in the sorority that I really liked. I thought about my roommate and knew that she wouldn't go through formal recruitment and would be crushed if I did so I didn't rush. Well, rush ends and I am feeling pretty down because I had made a decision that I didn't truly want.

Then, I walk into the class that I had with the girl that I mentioned before and she invited me to a COB party. (a chance to add more girls in the event that they don't take their maximum number). I told my roommate and I decided to go. I was extended a bid that night when I got home. I could tell that my roommate was happy for me but also a little sad. She told me that she was going to rush in the spring.

A few weeks later at a meeting I found out that we were going to have one more COB party and immediately thought of my friend. I brought her and she got one of the only two bids that were extended.

The point is that if I hadn't taken the chance and trusted our friendship then both of us would have been without our sisters that we love so much. Your friend will understand when rush starts. I just don't want you to feel like you should back down because of your friend. Even if my roommate wouldn't have had the chance to join I was happy being in the sorority. I always think about how sad I would have been if I would have passed up on what I always wanted twice.

Oh yeah, I am now roommates with the girl from my class and my old roommate is going to live with some of our other sisters. We are better friends than ever but the sorority gave us a chance to find friends outside of each other. It just goes to show that going your seperate ways is not necessarily a bad thing. In our case it has been a blessing to the bond that we have together.