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The point is that your daughter should be using you as a resource in her own research, rather than using you to do her research. I understand that it's hard to talk about things that aren't related to cancer/terminal illness when you're right in the thick of things, and reading GC and talking about it is fine - she should just be asking questions on her own, which will help her communication skills. To be honest, I think parents SHOULD read GC or similar sites (it's the posting on them I'm kinda iffy on) so at least they know as well as their kid what's going to be happening - recruitment is a heady time for everyone.
I also understand why you're preparing so far in advance.
My other point is that OUR lives are not black and white, either. And yes, I do see it as a "throwing it in our faces" type of deal - an "I'm going to make them so sorry they reacted this way" because that's how your post READS. I simply do not understand THAT kind of behavior.
Again, LOTS of us have been through similar types of situations. Some of us in high school, some of us in college, some of us as young adults, some of us as grown-ups, and all ends of the spectrum. I for one find it offensive that your assumption would be that none of us have dealt with that (and I'm pulling that from your comment about the lady in the grocery store).
I'm not trivializing your illness, or your daughter's situation, or anything. Dealing with this type of stuff is tough (at any age). Please, feel free to continue to read the forums, but let your daughter do the question asking for herself so that she can hone those communications skills. I assure you, GC still exists on the weekends, and one does not need to wait by the computer with baited breath for answers to their questions.
If you're truly grasping at straws as to what to do with your time (for what it's worth, my mom flew through 7 or 8 crossword and other puzzle books while she was in her appointments - that stuff is boring as hell), try researching something that you're interested in. Just because you're ill doesn't mean you don't have your own interests.
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