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The reason it's a problem that you came on to ask the question is it speaks right TO your question. Your daughter isn't comfortable in new situations and she has you handle things that makes her feel awkward. This would have been an EXCELLENT lesson in communication for her. And in fact, it's not too late. Since the user names are anonymous, SHE could sign up and ask the questions herself and none of us would know the difference.
But in the meantime, I'd be making her do a lot more stuff independently. When your family goes out to dinner, make HER make the reservations. This is a retardedly simple one, but I was astounded to meet college women who couldn't even order a pizza delivery. Make HER do all the arranging for her rush prep. She feels awkward calling your friends to ask for a rec? TOUGH. That's a perfect life lesson for this situation. Sending out inquiring emails is the easiest, then phones, then face to face. If she needs to start from square one, I'd be getting on that right now because she has a lot of ground to cover in 1 year.
And please, if you've read through many threads here, you have read a lot of psycho-Mom rants. Long time posters here may just have leapt to a conclusion. If you have your daughter's best interests at heart, start focusing on her independence now. It will pay off in a year when she's happily wearing her new sorority letters.
Good luck!
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