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Originally Posted by Wallace87
I just went through rush week, and didn't get a single bid. I went to the recruitment things for four different fraternities.
The Greek Life Office person said that lots of people rush during that week, and that it's entirely possible that I just sliped through the cracks. I found that hard to believe, and I think it's just lies to make me feel better, but I figured I'd ask you, who are actually familiar and less likely to attempt to spare my feelings.
I just have no idea what I did to piss all these people off. I chatted with the actives, and had decent conversations with most of the actives. I dont get it, I did everything they say to do, I still ended up with nothing for all my trouble.
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Are there only four fraternities on campus? Are they the 'top-tier' or most competitive groups? What's your campus climate for greek orgs? There are a ton of variables that could be in play. Even if we knew everything you did, we still probably can't tell you why you weren't given a bid. Not getting a bid doesn't necessarily mean you 'pissed' someone off. They might of thought you were awkward or didn't fit in. Again, too many variables.
At 22, you had the odds against you. Some groups might not have wanted a 22 year-old pledge ("He'll creep out freshmen girls at mixers," "He's not going to fit in with his pledge class," "He'll think he's above everyone because he's older," etc...). Other groups might not have thought you were a good fit ("I don't really know much about the guy," "He didn't really stand out").
Like the person above said, did you have substantial conversations? Did conversations flow? Did you talk about things you want to get involved in? I'm not sure about your campus/rush, but were you getting updates/e-mails/calls from rush chairs after getting on their lists? Not getting contact from the rush chair is a sign you aren't wanted.
You very well could have slipped through the cracks, but if it's not at a competitive school, that's very doubtful. There might be an opportunity for COB, but I don't know your campus.