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I couldn't believe those posts about sisters beating up one of their own! My sisters would NEVER do that. I am embarassed for that person. In my chapter, being lavaliered or being named sweetheart is a big honor. We have a candle "secret" ceremony to announce it. We are proud to say that we have sisters who are respected enought to represent a fraternity. One year my sorority had a sweetheart in every fraternity on campus. That was a major source of pride for us because it showed how well-recieved and respected we are on campus. I would NEVER beat up one of my sisters.
To respond to the thread starter's post (which is so old they might not even post anymore): I know that in my boyfriend's chapter of his fraternity you DO NOT just lavalier your girlfriend without asking the permission of the entire chapter. You must have all members present, get up and tell them why you want to lavalier the girl and about the prospect of marrying her, and then you leave so the brothers can take a vote. They are not just your letters to give, they are the fraternity's and I feel you should ask permission. My boyfriend was not tied to a pole because the brothers have seen us together and I am always down at the house with them so they knew how devoted to eachother we were. In fact, most of the brothers that have gotten up to speak were granted permission. However this year one got up and spoke for his girlfriend, who was not well liked by the brothers. They did not like the way she treated him, and felt that she was not devoted to him. So they brought back the tying to the pole to test her love for him. They tied him up to a basketball pole outside in his underwear. Then they called her and told her where he was and that she needed to go get him. She refused. So, she was not lavaliered. I don't know the exact circumstances after that, but he either decided not to give them to her, or the brothers told him he was not allowed to. It was a sensitive subject, so I didn't ask. I was in agreement with their opinion, she treated him like dirt. They are no longer together. My boyfriend told them that they could tie him up if they wanted to, but that I would be down there in a flash to get him and have curt words for them when I got back. They all knew I would, so that's why it didn't happen to him.
For the person who asked about sweethearts, I can only tell you what I know about the fraternity to which I am sweetheart. I consider it to being recognized as the fraternity's "girl." The person who is picked is usually a long-term girlfriend of one of the brothers or a very close friend to all of them that has always supported them. It is a very big honor at my school to be named a sweetheart.
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