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Originally Posted by orange_blue352
Hello,
I am looking to join a fraternity in the fall (a few that I have in mind and those that I have hung out with over summer semester)
Just a few questions:
Is there a do/don't wear type deal for rush? I've been wearing clothes like Polo/A&Fitch/Lacoste/Aeropostale...is there certain things I shouldn't wear?
What are some topics to avoid when asking the brothers questions about the fraternity? I know topics like politics, religion, diseases/abortion are things to avoid but are there certain things I should ask them? Should I talk to them about my interests?
Does being a minority put me at a disadvantage? (See below)
As for me, I'm very into sports (mainly basketball and football), upper-middle class, asian, finance major, social/friendly, shy at first.
If you haven't figured out by username, I go to Florida
Thanks
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My advice would be that you keep the same style of dress that you normally would wear, but make sure it's some of your "nicer" stuff.
If you try too hard to dress like something you aren't, then you will probably send up giant red-flags.
Most importantly though, be CLEAN! Make sure you are showered, shaved, and your hair is well-kept. Nothing makes a PNM less desirable than long finger-nails or bad breath. Be the kind of guy the other Fraternities are going to want to put out to meet all of the sororities.
As for conversation topics, "Good Guys" tells recruiters to stick to the 5 "F's"
Friends/Family
From (Where you are from)
Fun (What you like to do for fun)
Favorites (Yours/His Favorite Foods/Places/Entertainment)
Firsts (First time experiences)
Check out this website for some great examples of each
http://www.deltasig.org/files/Five%2...ecruitment.pdf
If you haven't noticed so far. All of these are open-ended questions. Remember that everyone is their own favorite topic. Make it a point to be sure your questions can open up a story.
For example: The question "Where are you from?" has absolutely nowhere to go but down. However, the question "What was it like growing up in a small-town?" has a ton of opportunity in it.
(PS My favorite question to be asked by a PNM is: "Why did you join the Fraternity?")
As for the Asian thing. You don't want to be a part of a Fraternity that would discriminate against you for that.