We've certainly had girls come to our preference round and/or bid day crying or visibly upset because they were dropped or didn't get a bid to their top choice. As a sister it is hard to not take it personally sometimes, but it's completely understandable. Sometimes those girls continue to mope and either drop out or fade into the background for their sorority experience, but the majority of them go on and become enthusiastic, involved members. It's just a decision between spending all your time thinking about what could have been or making the most of your time in your new chapter - or even working extra hard to improve your chapter if it's struggling.
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Originally Posted by 33girl
This is the reason why, tradition though it may be, I'm really not a fan of these large public bid-acceptance fests. At least when it's just 3 or 4 ABC sisters coming to your own private room, you can have a moment or two (or ten) to close the door, wipe the shock off your face, and cry if you need to - the sisters will understand.
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JHU is toying with the idea of moving from a private bid acceptance to a public one and it scares me, frankly. Panhellenic feels that getting your bid midday in a private room, then waiting until the evening to celebrate with your new sisters (which is the way it's done now) is anti-climactic and too prone to violations, like sisters pressuring PNMs throughout the day. They believe doing a big public acceptance will get girls more amped up and more likely to accept their bids. Buuut I can also picture a lot of crying girls going nowhere. At least with the current system they can take a few hours to think about it and then give it a try. Although, this has also back-fired and made girls psych themselves out (or get bad advice from friends) and change their mind or not show up to bid night. I guess we'll see.