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Originally Posted by DrPhil
When it comes to people who are depledging (and not people who simply don't want to be active/financial for a period of time as a collegiate or alum), some fraternities and sororities collect many of the items from the person. That includes ritual, pins, paraphernalia, etc. Some entities request for these items to be left in good faith and some entities offer...encouragement to do so.
It makes sense that some people don't want to leave some of the letters/symbols behind that were gifts, but people should have enough respect to check with the policies and procedures to see what to do. I recommend donating the items to an active member. It is against some GLO's policies and procedures to do things like donate items to The Salvation Army or throw them in the trash. We can't necessarily force someone who chooses to depledge (or is even expelled) to return every single thing or stop wearing and displaying every single thing. It's dumb for them to want to do so, but people don't always make sense.
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Pins/badges and ritual should be given back to the organization, period, IMO. I think giving items with letters to an active is the best solution, but so many (the ones I know, specifically) do not and continue to wear the mixer and formal shirts, keep letters on their cars, etc. It really does irritate me, and I wish other actives would be a little more firm in the separation between "friend" and "sister" when a member deactivates. I don't advocate shunning them, and I have good friends that have quit for different reasons. But I don't refer to them as a sister, and refuse to act like they are one. They quit. They are my good friend, but they are not a sister in my organization and IMO that line should be drawn.