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aumom2010, I feel for you. We all know that it is a mutual selection process and we hope and pray it works for everyone - the PNMs and the sorority members. I think RFM has made a big difference in evening the numbers in sororities out (and in reducing the meaning of tiers) and that this has been good for everyone. These things happen the rest of your life unless you are a hermit. In the working world, we have layoffs and situations where only one or some of several peers are promoted. In churches, we have elections for deacon/elder/vestry and other offices and, interestingly, people are hesitant to run for fear of losing. And on the member selection side, in the work world, you may interview someone, think they are perfect for the job, offer it, and be turned down. In some ways, I think this whole recruitment process is a preparation for life and that everyone who goes through it can learn from it.