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Dzrose is surely right on that--there's got to be a better way.
I get the brunt of this in one way that makes me crazy. There aren't many Pi Phis in this town but there are a lot of girls who go to UGa and I get asked to write a lot of recs. Of course, some girls have horrendous reputations (you wouldn't believe what my husband saw one of them doing the night before HS graduation last week) and I don't want them to go Pi Phi! (Or any other group!) Then I have to decide whether to write an impersonal rec or a no-rec. Knowing the power of a no-rec, I only wrote 1 last summer and the group that did pledge that girl dropped her almost immediately.
Generally, I write a flowery, very good rec if the girl would be a great member and I know her. If I don't know her but others are raving about her and she has loads of good activities, I'll write a good one but mention that I don't personally know her. If a girl has great activities but I've heard bad stuff, I write kind of a stilted rec and the chapter often takes the hint...generally if a girl has made herself look bad, the news has gotten around town.
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