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Originally Posted by aumom2010
Thanks for the encouraging posts and advice. After the first month I figure we will know more about whether it will be a situation she can live with, or if we should seek a change.
I'm just hoping that rush will be a positive experience and give her lots of new friends.(Thus taking her mind off roommate troubles.) I'll report back later today with her 2nd day impressions.
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Over time, my first roommate and I did not get along for various reasons, but the one major problem is that she smoked - a lot - and I have lung problems. She refused to go outside or into someone else's room, and she smoked more than just cigarettes. (Only one dorm at the time was non-smoking, the one that had had a fire the year before.) I didn't realize her smoking habits until we'd already been there for a few weeks, and roommate changes were not allowed after I think the first week.
I think that
your daughter should talk to her RA sooner rather than later to find out what her options are, and then to have a frank discussion with the roommate to see if some agreements can be made in certain areas. If they can't come to a compromise, then she can exercise her choice to change (if allowed). Or, perhaps they can try this semester and if things don't work out, change next semester. One thing to remember is that sometimes, we are stuck with people that we just don't get along with. It's a learning experience.
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