[AXOrushadvisor]

I just went through something similar to all of this with my DD. She didn't make the advanced dance team. She was bummed that she was invited to stay on the intermediate team. We had tears and she needed to "grieve" about it. When she was ready to talk I just calmly told her that dancing really wasn't her passion and reminded her of the things that bugged her about dancing. In the end she is ok with it. She was more embarrassed about not being invited.

Again, I don't think that Rho Chi's are very well trained. My niece is going to be one this fall at a competitive PAC 10 school and even she has admitted they really haven't been trained. Here is the other thing that I have learned through the years. Most women who LOVE recruitment and GET it don't become Rho Chi's. A lot of the women become Rho Chi's not because they LOVE recruitment and can help these women through the process, but because they want to get out of their work weeks and their chapter recruitment.

One last thing for what it is worth. I think women who drop out of recruitment before they attend preference parties are foolish. Why not just go? There has been more then one girl who has had their mind changed in a preference party. When I think about maximizing your options this is what I think of. Not quitting and staying until the end. If at the end of a recruitment that you have fully participated in you still are left cold then don't sign a bid card. At least you'll know you gave it every chance, right?