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Originally Posted by dgdramadawg
I spoke to alumnae from a couple of other sororities who know the PNM (and now know the crazy situation), and we are all planning on writing recs for the girl without the girl or mom knowing. Hopefully this will at least prevent a total disaster in August, and she won't get in trouble for seeking recs when her mom told her not to.
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From one DG to another, if you feel comfortable endorsing this girl for DG, then I think you should go ahead and write the rec form, but not divulge this to the PNM nor her mother. You don't need anyone's "permission" to write a sponsor form and the intention of sponsorship is to keep the Fraternity strong with good, capable, sustaining candidates for membership.
Another DG that I know (who is a former CDC) once said to me that in many ways, it's actually preferable that the PNM not be aware that you are writing a Rec for them, in the event that their Recruitment outcome is not what they wanted.