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Originally Posted by FleurGirl
This is the biggest thing to me. If the chapter doesn't fit her, why on earth would you want her there? If I were a mom, I'd much rather see my daughter find HER home. Would I love it if she were a Kappa? Of course. But I'd rather her be truly happy somewhere else than stuck in a chapter she doesn't love. At the end of the day, these moms need to figure out what's more important: having her daughter in her house, or having her daughter be happy?
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Or worse yet, to have her be stuck in a chapter that doesn't love her, and that refers to her behind her back as "the girl we HAD to take because she's a legacy."
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Originally Posted by Happy Mom
We were told in the 70's (by National) that unless a legacy had something horribly wrong with them, we had to take them. Until last year, none of my sisters (who have been meeting for reunions for years) had any idea that the policy had changed.
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I'm guessing you're from the South and so this really didn't apply in your neck of the woods, but in the 1970s chapters (of ALL Greek groups) were dropping like flies in the rest of the country. National HQs were not about to tick off alums and lose $$ when they were already hemorrhaging it - so if there was a 2 headed legacy who wanted in, here's the welcome mat.
A moral of this story is that it's great to keep in contact with your chapter sisters, but you need to keep up to date on national policies as well. That doesn't just apply to legacies but also to alumnae status and other things.