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i see. i think that it might be just that which was mentioned before-a lot of alumnae don't stay involved once they leave college, even falling off the sorority magazine mailing list, so they don't learn of the policy changes that the sorority has inacted in the last 20-30 years, nor do they realize how different "rush" is nowadays.

i have a friend whose daughter went thru recruitment last year at a small school with a competitive recruitment. there was a chapter of my friends sorority, and she felt that daughter would be a shoe in. daughter was dropped by legacy sorority but did accept a bid from another group and last i heard was giving it a try-at my advice.

mom was just distraught and i felt really badly for her and tried to comfort her as best i could.

not that it should have made a difference, but this woman has not been active in her alumnae group and i don't even know if she pays national dues or not. i did find it interesting that she had expected daughter to just breeze right in just because she was a legacy, even after i cautioned her that sometimes it doesn't work out that way.