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Originally Posted by carnation
This one, no. Others, yes to the point that I am embarrassed for the NPC. A lot. Also, we have no idea if these were good, strong, smaller groups that truly wanted her or if they were the kind that I believe on GC has been described as the kind of chapter who would take anyone with ovaries. Big difference.
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That's fine, i just think this was the wrong thread to make that stand in, particularly since you have actually
made a thread on this topic.
And this OP was of the opinion (or expressed her opinion in such a way) that these groups were the latter. No matter what the truth is, such an opinion
will limit her options. And particularly as a non-member she has no idea whether those groups just struggle for numbers and cut less, or whether they do take any and all comers.
If she (or any PNM) isn't happy with her options, that's ok. But I see little reason to encourage her to eliminate options in advance no matter what the reason. She wouldn't be the first PNM to have pre-conceived notions utterly shattered and find a home with a chapter she would never have thought would fit her.
Also, there has to be a balance between treating 18 year olds like kids and like adults. They're not always great at making decisions and can be more emotional, but they also can handle honesty and think critically.