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Originally posted by aephi alum
....when you write a rec, you're putting your reputation on the line, and I'm not willing to do that for someone I barely know.
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My thoughts exactly....which is why I posted this thread. I am greatly appreciating all the insights and views that everyone is sharing.
So...what is to be done with "worthy" rushees who don't know anyone? Are they out of luck? It seems like such an unfortunate conundrum to be in.....
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Originally posted by UF56
I understand what you are saying about writing people recs, but are PNM's supposed to do when there are truly no Sorority Alums in their area. ......But considering that I am going to UF and am a junior I need all the recs I can get. And from what I have been told on Greek Chat is to search for alums (even though I dont know them) and ask them for a rec. So what does a person supposed to do in this situation, because I am having a very difficult time.
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Anyone have any good ideas? The only thing that I can suggest to you is you have a few months of lead time, so time is one your side - try to meet some alums so that you can get those rec's that you need!
Try the meeting for coffee approach, and I would say compile a resume/scrapbook, something, anything to vouch for your accomplishments that you could present to the alumna so that she could read about you. Also, if you can get Reference Letters from past teachers, Girl Scout Leaders which you can present to the sorority alumna, that assert that you are a responsible, well adjusted person who would be an asset to a chapter's membership, this would help as well. The alumna then could potentially call those people, to help her in feeling comfortable about writing the Recommendation.
I would say, that you want to make it as EASY as possible for the alumna, and if you provide her with what she needs in order to feel comfortable to "vouch for you" (i.e. to sponsor you for membership), this will only help your situation & help your case in acquiring Alumnae Rec's.
It will take effort and work on your part, but I think, best to try and be as proactive as you can. As the (paraphrased) saying goes, "God helps those who help themselves"...so I would try to mobilize yourself and do what you can. I think you will find that GC'ers will be honest and forthright when you're seeking advice, too....
I'm from Canada, so I am kind of flying by the seat of my pants here in terms of advice, not sure if what I am saying would work in the "South" (note: is Florida actually considered the "South"? Sorry for my ignorance)...does anyone have some good suggestions?
Good Luck in your Recruitment!