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Originally Posted by carnation
I received a pm from a GCer who's a member of a smaller group on a big campus. Without outing her group, she wanted me to ask y'all how they could make PNMs feel like they were "chosen", not like they were all their group could get. She said that frequently they're in the position of having to ask back girls who have cut them and that frankly, a lot of girls who are crying at their prefs aren't doing it from happiness.
So GCers, how can they make their guests feel special and not let them think they're the "leftovers" in recruitment?
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I would do it through conversation. At the door, whoever is greeting the PNM's should know them by name "Carnation, we are so glad to see you back" Then there needs to be a reaffirmation from the members when meeting the PNM. "I have heard so much about you. I'm so glad your back" As the recruitment progresses I think they need to be honest with the women they want. I don't think there is any thing wrong with telling these women that they do want them and that they would be "perfect helping us rebuild our Chapter" because they have this quality and that quality. This will take a lot more work then normal, but it would be so worth it.
In terms of crying at Pref- that is a hard one. I think it is so frustrating for a PNM to have to go to party they don't want to be at, but it is part of the process. I think in a situation like this you have to sell your Chapter and your Sisters - maybe even introduce them to women in the Chapter who went through the same thing- maybe it is incorporated into your preference ceremony some way. The bottom line is the Chapter needs to find a way to connect with these girls. If they can not then they probably wouldn't be good members any way and the Chapter just needs to walk.
I also think the Chapter needs some type of system that is set up once these women find there way into the Chapter as a new member. Their goal should be to hang onto these women and the PNM's first instinct is going to be to drop. I would try to put someone in charge of these women who is attractive, friendly and outgoing. If there is not a plan you have these folks dropping and that doesn't help a small Chapter either.
Good luck to this group. I hope they have good alumni support and support from Greek Life. I also hope the other Chapters on campus are helpful too.