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Originally Posted by fantASTic
I can't believe how many of you are pro-spanking. I am not.
I was spanked as a child (not beaten; spanked) and still hold severe resentment to my parents for it. I think it's totally unacceptable to teach children that an acceptable reaction to misbehaving or irritating someone is violence. Studies have shown that children who are spanked are significantly more likely to be violent and aggressive towards other children, even after controlling for dozens of factors (including natural aggressiveness). I personally do not want a violent and aggressive child; if you do, that is your prerogative, but do not be surprised to find out that he or she gets in trouble at school.
If your kid is acting up in the grocery store or a restaurant, you just leave. That's how it works. You. Leave. Does it inconvenience you? Yep. But you chose to have kids - that comes with the territory.
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I don't have children yet and I don't resent my parents but, I agree with you on this one. I have already talked to my boyfriend about how I want to raise our children, in the future, after we get married. We have both decided we don't want to spank/ hit our children. I'm not a flower-child or someone who thinks all children are rainbows and butterflies but, I don't see the need to hit a child. I agree that if the kid acts like a little brat, leave. While I'm sure there are many people on this site who actually parent their children, you have to admit that there are people out there who couldn't be bothered with "dealing" with their kids. If you have kids (whether by choice or chance) don't be a jerk and make the rest of us have to deal with your handful by allowing him/ her to be loud and obnoxious. I don't think you need to spank, though. I would love to hear more ideas about how you can discipline your child minus spanking.