[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

It sucks a little because we as alumnae have the benefit of hindsight.

We know that if you get that bid to that 2nd or 3rd choice, and you stick it out, chances are very good that you'll end up feeling at home there and being glad you accepted.

I always tell PNMs this:

I have never met a girl who looks back on her sorority experience after a few years and says "I wish I wouldn't have accepted."

However, if I had a dime for everytime I heard someone who declined a bid or depledged say "I wish I had tried it (or stuck it out)" I'd be rich.