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Originally Posted by MUSK81

I agree ... but if anything leads to poor self-esteem, it's being given away to strangers at birth, having your entire background and heritage being kept a secret from you "for your own good," being raised by people who, although they are wonderful, don't look like you, act like you, think like you, or understand why you aren't just like them. It's being constantly questioned about your "real" parents and looked down upon because in some people's minds, there must be something wrong with you because your own mother didn't want you. Or thinking that you're going to bring "bad blood" into a family because you don't know your background (or are even allowed to know.) I could go on, but you get the general idea. There are many beautiful and positive and wonderful aspects to being adopted, but like everything else, there's a dark side, too. Danielle appears to have experienced more than her share of the dark side, and although I don't agree with her behavior, I can understand her issues and sympathize up to a point. I'm not asking anyone else to understand or sympathize. I'm merely stating my own opinion, as everyone else is stating theirs.

I'm sorry your adoption experience was so difficult and traumatizing but that's YOU and YOUR experience. Saying Danielle is the way she is because she was adopted gives her no reason to be personally responsible for her own behavior. She is in her 40's with children it's time to get a therapist work on her issues and become an adult.