As for Danielle's behavior being "excusable," I never said it was. I merely said I could understand it, given that we've lived through a similar experience. I started my post by saying she was crazy! Her non-stop seeking of approval, her obsession with people who have made it clear that they want nothing to do with her, her glomming onto casual friends to "help" her, her constant testing of every person and every situation around her - it's all in the literature. I've done some of it myself, although not anywhere near to the extent that Danielle has. That's not to say that non-adoptees don't do any of these things, but certain behaviors and groups of behaviors are more common with some of us. And getting counseling is just what she should do. A prescription for Xanax wouldn't go amiss, either!
