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Originally Posted by remmie_k
I just wanted to know because it isn't like Maryland is part of a different planet but people act like their is a big difference between states. Atleast in Tennessee the general impressions of a group is equal all over. I don't think it is easy anywhere you go especially if you have fewer chapters. They won't care if you have a 4.0 if they don't like you! I just think things are easier than when my mom went through it, less restrictions. Sydney, your name reminds me of a show, anyways, anyone can not get in but from what I read on here EVERYONE has a preference starting out and why would I not consider going where most of my friends go? Did atleast one person on this site get into the sorority they wanted? You just make it so negative sounding like every girl is below the sorority and she is lucky to be invited to it. Can I ask how open to every group you were and not just the least bit partial to one?
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remmie, we are here to give advice and most often the advice we give comes from experience. many of us are advisors to chapters of our sororities, and among those, several of us are or have been recruitment advisors. we see girls at parties who have decided before they attend the first party, or meet the first sister, that they are going to be "abc" or nothing. and guess what? sometimes they do end up an "abc", but sometimes they end up in another sorority or they do not get a bid at all. it is heartbreaking for us to hear of girls who did not receive a bid, or who are not open minded enough to give the group that did extend a bid to them a chance. if our advice can help a pnm to see that it is in her best interest to have an open mind and to keep her options open, to continue with recruitment even if her dream sorority does not invite her back, then we feel that we have truly helped someone.
btw, many of us did get our first choice during recruitment. many of us did not. those who were daring enough to give their 2nd or third choice a chance have almost unanimously said that they ended up where they belonged and that they would not change a thing.
do what you want. good luck to you. but i have to ask....why did you come on here and ask for our advice? your replies make me think that you had your mind made up before you found greekchat.