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Originally Posted by remmie_k
I just wanted to know because it isn't like Maryland is part of a different planet but people act like their is a big difference between states. Atleast in Tennessee the general impressions of a group is equal all over. I don't think it is easy anywhere you go especially if you have fewer chapters. They won't care if you have a 4.0 if they don't like you! I just think things are easier than when my mom went through it, less restrictions. Sydney, your name reminds me of a show, anyways, anyone can not get in but from what I read on here EVERYONE has a preference starting out and why would I not consider going where most of my friends go? Did atleast one person on this site get into the sorority they wanted? You just make it so negative sounding like every girl is below the sorority and she is lucky to be invited to it. Can I ask how open to every group you were and not just the least bit partial to one?
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Remmie- I was probably like most 18 year old girls when I went through recruitment. I knew no one who was in a sorority except for a cousin and none of my close friends from HS were going through "rush" at the time. I listened to tent talk and looked at the houses and decided I wanted to be an Alpha Phi (based on glowing tent talk and in my opinion they had prettiest house on the row.) *sigh* to be young and dumb
They dropped me going into round 3. The weird thing was I was the type of kid that went oh well and moved on. In the end I preffed 2 Chapters Chi Omega and Alpha Chi Omega. I liked both groups equally well and my rush buddy was putting Chi O first and I chose Alpha Chi Omega because they had a sorority house that the Chapter lived in and Chi O had a house that housed just 8 women at time. In the beginning I was very partial to a group that dropped me- then I think I had a pretty open mind about what happened next. In the end, I did get in the sorority I wanted.
I think why you hear the words of caution so much is that a lot of girls go through recruitment only wanting to be an x, y or z. They can not see themselves fitting in any other group. With the number of women going through recruitment and the way the RF's work it is not like it used to be to get a bid. The drops are so significant after the first round that the first round of recruitment really becomes a first impression game- just my opinion.
To answer your question about why you wouldn't want to consider where your friends are? I'm not sure that is what folks are saying. I just think they are saying to look at other groups too. Have a well rounded recruitment experience. I don't think people are saying that a PNM is lucky to be invited to join. In my opinion, a lot of PNM's go through recruitment with an attitude of entitlement. I'm not sure if it is a generational thing, but when the PNM's don't get what they want they quit recruitment. They wont give the groups a chance that do invite them back because "they think the group is below them". They then post on here their boo hoo stories. The PNM's that I really feel for are the ones who totally participate and maximize their parties and then don't get placed in a group OR get dropped from every group and it is not for a bad reputation or grades. If you read this forum you'll find many of these stories and that my friend is the business of recruitment that I really hate.
Good luck to you. Let us know how it all works out.