I had this issue too. I went to a school planning on staying there all four years and then ended up not liking it and transferring back to the university near home. Anyway, I went through recuritment at the first school and didn't really feel like I fit in at the chapters there (there weren't many to choose from) and already had feelings about possibly transferring, so I decided to drop out of recruitment. The next year, I transferred to a bigger school with a very competitive rush (with a ton more houses to choose from) and LOVED recuritment. I could see myself fitting in in several houses, and ended up accepting a bid at the end of the week. My suggestion would be to go through rush and see if you feel connected/like you could fit in at any of the houses at memphis. Put it this way, there are going to be girls you can be friends with in ANY house, so if you really love a chapter at memphis and they offer a bid, why not take it. Don't worry about what your mom is or what your friends are...YOU'RE the one rushing and potentially pledging a sorority in which you will be a member for life, so do this for yourself and do what will make you happy. Go through and see how you feel about it, if its not right and you end up transferring...try it again.
