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Originally Posted by remmie_k

Hiii, I am a Freshman at U. Memphis. My parents didn't want me to attend here as their alma mater is U. Tenn but I am not ready to go hours away because we live in Collierville. I'm the only daughter so I understand why my mom wants me to wait and join her sorority but I don't see it being easy or useful Junior year. I might transfer after Freshman year but I am just not sure about living away from home! U. Tenn definitely has larger chapters but I know I will be bored at U. Memphis not joining anything. I would love to be part of my moms but most of my friends join ADPi so I would love to be their sister also. I could affiliate at U. Tenn also when I transfer and still be a part of a sorority! There is really pros and cons on both sides so I am torn. If anyone has gone through this and can share their stories please do! So ladies, my question is should I join now with my friends or hold out for my mom?

Some things to think about:

No matter WHERE you choose to go through recruitment (Memphis or UT) keep an open mind to ALL chapters on campus. I know you like ADPi and your mom is one, but NO ONE is guaranteed a bid, not even someone whose mother is a chapter member. At a big school, there could be MANY women whose moms are ADPis going through recruitment, and the chapter can not take all of them.

This forum has many stories of girls who were not invited to join mom's sorority. So keep that in mind.

Also, generally speaking, you should make college-related decisions based on YOU and not your mom.

Some things to consider about transfering:

Forst of all, you are not guaranteed a bid to ADpi, or really ANY sorority for that matter.

Consider the fact that if you DID get a bid and transfer schools, not every chapter is the same. You could join a chapter at Memphis and it might be TOTALLY different from the UT chapter.

Some sororities also do not automatically accept transfer affiliates from other schools due to the size of the chapter.

UT is an SEC school where chapters tend to favor freshmen. An upperclassman transfer student may not have the same chances at getting a bid.

This is really going to have to be YOUR decision. Those are just some points to consider.