[Benzgirl]

I can only speak for the chapter where I'm one of the advisors. There ARE adults at the formals, and I don't mean 22 year olds. Alums and their spouses/significant others typically are at the event greeting the bus as they arrive. Anyone who is perceived to be "over their limit" are put into a cab, at their own expense.

I'm not saying there are not drunks at the parties. I am saying that responsible adults are there to control the drunkeness. Even worse, when the advisors hear of issues even after the parties, it is handled swiftly and with purpose.

Example: we were getting ready for Senior Rededication at IRD (our Founder's Day) and I saw one of the other advisors having a "Come to Jesus" with two of the collegians. Even though we couldn't hear what was being said, the two girls were nearly in tears. A few weeks later I asked the advisor what happened and she said she overheard one of the other actives talking at the luncheon about the two girls that were drunk at the formal and she confronted them.

Even though you are chronologically an adult at 21, it doesn't mean your level of maturity has reached adulthood.