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Originally Posted by luvdrunk
I've been so brain numbed by him I can't think about just myself. I've been with him for 2+ years. I'm a pretty strong, confidant woman, but I'm always worried about hurting his feelings. He says I MAKE him insecure, that I don't need to talk to soo many guys etc. I've never cheated on him and never gave him reason to think I was. I was always completely honest with him. This is still where it got me.
Do you guys think I should call it quits?
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Agree with all of the advice as well.
I never would have admitted it at the time, but the guy I dated in high school was controlling and somewhat (verbally) abusive. I only really realized this once I got to college...we broke up right before school stated and it kind of allowed me to take a step back and look at the relationship. Anyways, we kept talking during freshmen year and he still tried to control me (told me not to hang out with people, etc). He also admitted that he made a mistake in breaking up with me before college, and wanted to get back together. By this time I knew I didn't, but I didn't have the courage to tell him no. I was afraid of hurting his feelings. BIG MISTAKE. It just kept going on and on until finally I told him I had moved on (and actually wanted to be with someone else), and he flipped out out at me, screamed at me (over the phone, since we were at our separate schools), called me a whore, bitch, liar, etc. Things eventually cooled down (months later) and he apologized for the way he acted about everything.
The moral of my story is don't let pity be the reason that you're not doing something about this. It sounds like you're in a bad relationship and right now the person you have to be thinking about is you. I very much agree with Little's advice too--get the support of your parents. I know that's probably going to be really hard. I know I would have had an incredibly hard time going to my parents for help, but looking back I probably should have. They would have helped put an end to all that nonsense a LOT quicker than I did myself.
Good luck