Hello all,
I'm a GC regular but I don't want to address this problem on my regular username since there is too much info attached with this. But I need help, this is getting pretty bad. It is pretty long though:
Around Valentine’s Day, I had a meeting with a fraternity for planning a mixer. 2 of their reps and 3 of ours went to a meeting at Starbucks (note a public place, because I know bf is a little wary of me and guys). BF called me twice, I didn't hear my phone was on silent, but I told him I’d call after we finished because we had plans. Once the meeting was over I looked at my phone and told one of my girls "guess who called?" and I guess I had talked about my bf enough to the guy to where they knew his name and HE was like "oh, bob?" and I was like yeah, he's probably worried, he gets a little nervous when I’m around guys in fraternities, because he was in one and he's worried that they are like him. 5 seconds later I feel someone hit me on the back of the head with something. I thought it was one of my friends (I have a friend that I do things like this to regularly ranging from a gentle nudge to a tackle) and turn to see him there..... longer story short he threw iced tea on me in the parking lot afterward because I was being taken home by a sister instead of him... and then he
got into my room (without me there) and started taking my stuff as "compensation" (think my TV, my laptop, my expensive straighter...)
We worked things out through counseling, and he was working through anger issues. It’s been rough but I put up with it.
Flash forward to the last 48 hours: I get a text from a guy friend (who works nights & early morning, sleeps during day) that he got off early and is actually going to get sleep. I only talk to this guy randomly and he knows about "bob". I was already asleep so I didn't see it till morning. When I got on Face book I saw that he made a note @ 3am and I commented that "so much for that sleep...", bf saw this and confronted me on how I knew this guy, why I was talking to him, why I knew when he was sleeping etc. He called me "loose" (not in the sexual way
) blah blah blah. I was mad but I tried to move on. I was going to write on his wall and I saw that he made his status about this one guy and his note. I got annoyed, pissed off and frustrated, I told him to talk it down (no one you know knows him, its childish etc) to which he replied no. I left at that and didn't want to talk to him/him to keep wall stalking me so I blocked him on facebook. It's about 11, I go to sleep. I wake up at 2:15 to a missed call.... actually 35 missed calls from 11:30 to right then. I text him to g-talk and he says he's on the road..... to my house. 300+ miles away (we're apart for summer break). I tell him to stop, and turn around and that I won't see him. We talk and I annoyingly appease him to keep him from my house ('yeah, I love you' not a lie)
I've been so brain numbed by him I can't think about just myself. I've been with him for 2+ years. I'm a pretty strong, confidant woman, but I'm always worried about hurting his feelings. He says I MAKE him insecure, that I don't need to talk to soo many guys etc. I've never cheated on him and never gave him reason to think I was. I was always completely honest with him. This is still where it got me.
Do you guys think I should call it quits?