[AGDee]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

You know, one of my best friends is going through this. She'll turn 30 in just over a year and would like to be married when she's "30-ish". That being said, she has her expectations set a bit high. I love her and she was the maid of honor at my wedding, but she says she hasn't had a boyfriend in 6 years (we're including anyone she's been out with more than once- in 6 YEARS!) because she can't find what she's looking for.

She's overweight and average-looking, but I think she is a fantastic person to be around. She refuses to go online for a date and she just complains that she can't meet anyone that fulfills her qualifications of being "tall, built, a gorgeous face, and smart with a good job". I mean, she will summarily dismiss someone she sees, saying things like "No, I don't want to go and say hi, his nose looks a little crooked" or "He's drinking dark beer, ew!" I'm trying to figure out a way to tactfully say that she should lower her expectations a bit.....

My friend who was like that finally came out of the closet after over a decade of finding some picayune thing wrong with every man who was interested in her.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Or else she's been so hurt in the past that it's easier to shoot them down before they do it to her. Her "hilariousness" is just covering that up.

Try helping her with the things that CAN be fixed - like finding a good dermatologist and going to the gym or on a diet with her - instead of just throwing weiners at the problem. She has to love herself before she can love anyone else. Any boyfriend she'd get at this point in her life would probably be a mental abuser who preyed on her self-doubt.

Agree with this too.