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Originally Posted by yougc
I guess I'm just scared of being hurt. I have been hurt before and have regrets I wish was easy to let go of. I don't want that to happen to me again. I know it sounds selfish. But I've come to the point that I would even jeopardize a good thing going if I knew it meant it would go no where in the end or hurt me somehow. BUT I will definitely do just as you say and RELAX. Just everytime I'm with him, I get so nervous of doing the wrong thing.  |
What are you afraid will happen if you say or do the wrong thing? Relaxing is really good advice. You sound like you're setting yourself up to be in a relationship where you're afraid to express yourself for the sake of your partner. YMMV, but I've learned through experience that the best way not to get hurt is to know myself and to be able to say "here's what I want, here's what I like, here's what is not working for me."
It's not something you have to dump all at once as the relationship is still developing, but if you feel like you have to walk on eggshells, you're never going to be yourself and your entire focus will be on him and his needs and wants and not some how accidentally pushing him away. That's not a very fair relationship to be in.
Just my 2 cents.