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Originally Posted by yougc

Very interesting! thank you.

In the beginning when you two would be communicating, what kept you going about him? I mean if you didn't know how he felt, and all he said when you told him how you felt was "awww, thank you," with no reciprocation then how did you know he cared ever? You said you would get offended.

Isn't it tiring to keep expressing your care, but with none in return? I'm patient of course, but sometimes it just seems not worth it if you are the one looking for love and have been in situations like this before ei) bad breakups, relationships, etc in the past.

One other thing, if you were gone for a time in the beginning, away from him, did he ever express he missed you at all when you came back? Or was it just a one way street relationship for a very long time?

Just trying to understand this. Thanks so much!

My boyfriend has always been a very sweet and caring individual. He showed how much he loved me from his selfless acts. I always knew that he felt very strongly about me and was just not able to say it. I did wonder a lot in the beginning why he never reciprocated and I did take it personally. Here is what I think - I am a person who believes that there is somebody out there for everyone. The way that my boyfriend treats me is the way that I feel I should be treated by any guy I decide to be with because he is just THAT good to me. No matter who you are with, you and the other person will always have issues. The hard part is determining which issues you can live with (he snores, he leaves his dirty dishes in the sink, etc) and which issues you can't put up with. I decided early on that it was something I would help him work through. I know that I am not "every woman" and that many women would expect him to express himself more. It is something that I live with knowing that I am not perfect either and I have issues that I also need to work on. We are just two imperfect people but we are just right for each other.

Of course, if you think the relationship is worth it, you need to talk to him about it ... while we both know that he is introverted, he is constantly working on becoming more social and I have brought it to his attention more than once in the past.

And to answer your last question, he would ALWAYS tell me how much he missed me. As a matter of fact, our relationship is long distance right now and he always tells me that he misses me and he gets very excited when we are going to see each other. I hope I answered everything that you asked!