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Originally Posted by psusue
I would say that I disagree with this statement. I think that you can't help who you're attracted to, sure, but you can help who you fall in love with. The distinction in my mind would be that falling in love takes time and effort-- attraction is typically instantaneous or happens after a short period of time. Maybe I'm just mincing words here, but I think in this discussion the difference is pertinent-- you can't help that you thought that guy/girl is hot, but you can choose to not give in and try to pursue interaction with them/choose not to react when they try to interact with you.
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You can still pine for them from afar. Depends on how fast you think love occurs. Or how obvious it is. I ended up in a relationship without quite knowing how it happened, at some point in our chatting we developed an emotional connection and I fell in love, but I couldn't have told you when that happened.
I understand the distinction you're going for, I'm just not sure there's an obvious line or that it always starts as "oh s/he's hot; crap better avoid them" instead of "hey s/he's nice and is a great workout buddy or somehow fulfills a friendship role.'