It would only be difficult for someone to view a feminine woman or a masculine man as gay if they base their views off of stereotypes. Yes, you're the only one who finds it funny to play "guess the orientation." And the fact that you think you can guess is the problem.
Here's the thing: Im not saying Kagan is or isnt gay. Im saying she comes across as gay to me. If we're going to play "guess the sexuality" (clearly since this happens to be your issue you miss the humor in even playing the game because it doesnt matter if she's gay and because realistically only Kagan could answer the question of her sexuality) then your guess is as good as mine. Mine happens to be gay. The problem might be that you're taking this seriously when the point of "guess the sexual orientation" and The Maury show is that neither of these can be taken seriosly. I cant look at the average person and tell which gender they'd like to screw. I can say Kagan gave me gay vibes.
And finally, and I feel the need to shout here: "LESBO" IS INAPPROPRIATE.
You're making judgments about how a straight woman looks/how a gay woman looks and much of it is based on whether or not she is making herself look in a certain way. That is at the least, heterosexist, and probably sexist.
Heterosexist: but the issue is im not making any determinations about her worth or value based on her sexual Orientation. Im guessing her SO. Its not good or bad it just is. If she's gay cool if not I was wrong. Being heterosexist or even sexist denotes a judgment of worth, equality, etc. and Im making none of the sort.
Homosexual is disfavored outside of clinical usage. Gay or LESBIAN is the appropriate term, queer can be acceptable if the individual self-identifies that way, but I'd recommend against using it while telling people you expect them not to live their lifestyle.
Thats interesting. Most guys I know prefer gay or homosexual. Women have by far had the most varying IDs ever in my experience Lesbo, Dyke, Gay, Lesbian (this is probably used least often) queer and others.
You seem to be incapable of grasping the following concept: When people say she looks gay, it is 99 times out of 100 implied that gay = bad/abnormal/weird. Imagine if "gay" were replaced with your race or religion with the same implications. "Stop dressing like that, are you trying to look X"
Don't wear that dishiki (or DuRag) are you trying to look black? Or maybe she looks jewish. Its been ages since I've changed the way I am because of what other people say and do. Some people use gay as a slur. I dont. Maybe Im weird in that I dont think being gay/lesbo/homo/dyke/queer is wrong or bad.
Do they "look gay?" Are they? Can your magic gaydar tell?
Dude looks sad as hell. I cant get over his eyes. He looks like those abused dogs in the animal shelter commericals. He does look like he watches star trek, is a relative of Larry King and is old. lol.
The lady, she looks really gay. Okay, Its unfair because I actually know who she is so I know that she's gay (Ellen is one of my favorite commedians). But if I didnt know her sexual orientation then I wouldt be able to give a guess at all. Im not saying you can tell the SO of all(or even most) people based on their looks. Some people do give off gay vibes and/or look gay. Some people set off my gaydar while others dont.
Priests are allowed to date and have relationships? Celibacy is being and remaining unmarried as well as typically encompassing avoiding sex, that involves not engaging in relationships. So you not only think people should deprive themselves of their sexual satisfaction, but that they should also deprive themselves of their emotional fulfillment and attachment and security that comes with having a partner. All to satisfy
your sense of morality? Yeah I'm sure they'll get right on that.