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Originally Posted by honeychile

greekgirl2013, the one mistake I made when I pledged was that almost all of my better friends were Seniors. I came back for my sophmore year and felt lost - for a month or two. I loved ADPi, and didn't want to leave, so I made a conscious decision to do something with a different sister every day. Obviously, I wasn't the only one, because someone set up a puzzle in the one corner, and various sisters worked on that. Others started taking a walk after dinner with me (in an attempt to lose that freshman fifteen), and we also played Scrabble or Pinochle every night. I also made sure that I went to the library with a sister, shopping, watched tv - as long as it was no more than 3 people, the better. I got to know my sisters much better, and found myself doing somewhat the same things until I graduated.

Yes, there will be times when you really do need to be alone, but by living in the house (suite, or whatever), and working AND having fun with your sisters, you're going to develop a new feeling towards them. You will never have the deep warm fuzzies for all of your sisters, but you'll learn an important factor of life - how to get along with anyone, even under pressure.

Good luck to you. If you need a shoulder to cry on, I'm sure that there are a lot of people who would happily let you vent - if you're willing to try. Nobody can do that part for you.


ETA: Don't ever forget that there are women in EVERY sorority who are having the same doubts - you're not alone!

i too bonded with the seniors when i was a new member, however, i lived in the house for 3 years and i absolutely loved it. i remember everyone piling in the "lanai"(our tv room) to watch the wizard of oz, sharing a pizza with 7 other girls-came out to a dollar a girl-and long talks when i should have been studying. give it a try-i hope that you have as much fun as i did!