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Originally posted by stoplook_listen
"PROFESSOR ASKED OUR OPINION. Not only that, he also ASKED US WHAT WE FELT HE SHOULD DO. Therefore, any harsh words aimed at Professor were not unsolicited!"
I remember Professor asking for opinions and what everybody felt he should do, however I didn't catch the part where he asked for "harsh words". If that's what he was looking for than I'm sure he is very satisfied. I am curious.. is it possible to give advice w/o being judgemental? Is it possible to hear apposing views w/o devaluing them? I'm sure Professor made his decision based on ALL views. I'm sure he disagrees w/ alot I've said, but I doubt all of it. Likewise I'm sure he agrees w/ some of what others have said. My point wasn't to silence opinions opposite to mine,
I just felt that all the "self-righteousness" and "judging" comments were kind of bold. Especially if you have dirt on you (hence the examples) All sin is the same in the eyes of God...who are we to prioritize them?
I acknowledged what he did was wrong like everyone else(including himself) but I don't think my advice was judgemental. I don't think my disagreements w/ contrasting opinions were judgemental either. I see value in the opinions opposite of my own. I am confident that at least some of my opinions make sense to somebody. The choice is Professors in the end.
...and yes...I DO listen and learn
...and yes I have learned from these differences of opinion
...I did forget to shut up though 
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I appreciate this post, believe it or not. Now I see where you are coming from. You are right Professor did not ask for "harsh words." But just to put the shoe on the other foot, the Professor similarly did not say, "when giving your oprions, please sugarcoat them so as not to offend me." I don't know about anyone else, but when someone asks me MY opinion, they had better be prepared to get it, harsh or not. Sometimes the truth just hurts, plain and simple. I don't see the posts as judgmental, nor do I see them as self-righteous. No one on this board has prefaced any post with "Well, since I am free of sin, I will comment." No one has taken a holier-than-thou stance. To the overly-sensitive, the harsh nature of the posts might give that impression. But to those who are firmly planted in reality, it is just the truth.
As far as Professor, it is my opinion that he knew what he wanted to do all along. His only struggle was to acknowledge it.
You are right about the sins. But again, what you have to realize is that this thread is not about anyone else and their sins. It is about Professor, who solicited opinions. Therefore, anyone else's life choices are pretty irrelevant, unless that person should choose to use them as a frame of reference.
TLAW, I am in TOTAL agreement about the emotional cheating thing.