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Originally Posted by speechless10
It sucks when it seems like everyone else's parents are paying for their sorority. And it seems like the girls who aren't paying for it themselves don't really have worries of whether or not to disaffiliate because it's kind of like, "oh well... my moms paying for it so its not MY money im losing." i'm not trying to offend anyone, but im paying so much money, for tshirts, stress, and friends who are cliquish. are other sororities like this? :/
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QFP
Well, I imagine that there are girls in just about every chapter who do pay for their own dues and etc. I am not in that situation but I still fully participate and do not "waste" money. If girls are only looking at it from a "well its just money" standpoint instead of a "this is something I am involved in and should give it my best" well then I think it is sad. If you are involved and giving this much time to something then you should give effort to it (so long as it isn't messing up your school. education first!).
Cliques... well late teens early twenties women... it sucks I know, but well it's life? I'm sorry. There are hard times and good times with membership in a sorority. Some days suck. Especially when it seems that everyone is in little cliques who don't give two cents to what the chapter needs or is doing. However, you are a member who is putting in effort and wants to be in it (I assume if you are willing to pay for it yourself). So stick it through. Try to break into some of the cliques. Maybe try to have a large sisterhood event or a candle pass to help break barriers. You could also try to run for an executive position and make changes in the chapter.
Good luck.