[IrishLake]

yeah, that probably wasnt the greatest advice. i'm always thinking of a not so competative small school environment. i wasn't thinking that she would be taking the spot of someone else if she got invited back places, esp at such a competative school. and i was suggesting she drop out before preference, but that still takes away from other girls prior to, potentially. i was just thinking of something they could do together, since it sounds like the friend needs a lot of support and needs to have something to look forward to. maybe suggesting that you were thinking of joining the service sorority instead, and ask if she would join you? or just encouraging it to her, even without you.